by Joshua Hoe
I can’t take it anymore.
Everywhere you turn there are more self-appointed television addiction “experts” and they all have different versions of the same shaming technique when it comes to discussing addicts (they never really come on to talk about addicts – they come on to gain traction by piling on).
What is that shaming technique, some version of the following statement:
“How could anyone be that stupid.”
As if addictive behavior was governed by logic.
If addictive behaviors were governed by logic – simple rationality would get everyone sober.
Emotional And Compulsive Not Logical
As I have mentioned many times before, and have seen many experts admit, we don’t really know how people find recovery.
We do know that it is a process rarely governed by logic.
I know it wasn’t a logical process for me.
When I confronted triggering events a process was set into motion in my brain that is close to automatic.
So automatic that no matter how badly I wanted NOT to act out, I often found myself acting out.
Sometimes it was almost more devastating for me to come to grips with how I could act out even when I really deeply did not want to act out then it was to handle the actual relapse.
Addictive behavior is often called a disease by some for this exact same reason. It is often beyond the ability to apply “self-control.”
To expose more of this brand of addiction “treatment”
* Going to a rehab facility does not mean an addict is cured
* Relapse does not mean that the addict is doing it on purpose
* Relapse is not to spite the sober
* Relapse is not self-destructive behavior, at least not in the way most commentators assume.
Mostly, I just wish people on TV would stop judging addicts.
Judging their immoral or illegal actions, okay, the addiction, not okay.
What are your thoughts about shaming addicts using logic as a weapon? Have you experienced this first hand? Share your stories, I would love to hear your comments!