Before I found recovery, I was an incredibly cynical person. I disdained participation in every meeting I was forced to attend, what could I possibly learn from someone else that wasn’t a waste of my time? I hated “planned” group activities and the “childish” things that always came with them. I distrusted all displays of emotion and… Continue reading My “2 Way” Faith
Many of my recovery friends have called my idea of recovery “The Gentle Path” but what does that mean? It means: Relapse is often a part of recovery Recovery is about making progress not about attaining perfection “Harm Reduction” is always better than “Tough Love” or “Punishment” Every day in recovery is better than a day… Continue reading The Gentle Path To Recovery
I spent most of my younger life falling in and out of “love.” I would chase someone for months, charm them, date them, start a relationship, and then…right when everything should have been perfect, I would start to distance myself emotionally from them. Basically, the exact moment they started to search for the “real me”… Continue reading Take Off Your Emotional Boxing Gloves
Writing Your Own Best Story: Addiction and Living Hope by Joshua B. Hoe
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by Joshua Hoe So, I want to tell you about a problem I used to have in relationships that I had no idea was a problem (until now). Responding to the emotions my partner’s shared with me with nothing but problem-solving. It would almost always go something like this: One of my romantic partners would… Continue reading Learning to Listen With Empathy, Not Engage In Problem-Solving
By Joshua Hoe I was thinking today about feelings of entitlement to sex that come in relationships. You know, when you feel it is a biological right and something you are supposed to get as part of your signed relationship agreement…and can get grumpy about when it doesn’t happen. No matter what a relationship is,… Continue reading Entitlement Vs. Love + Intimacy
by Joshua Hoe Back in my days of dating and popularity… I think of the many times that I was physically close to a girlfriend and pulled away from her (sometimes turning from that experience directly to acting out rather than stay close). Physical closeness should be good right? I should have thought of these… Continue reading What Are You Afraid Of? Intimacy